The project is a fine-grain knowledge of your first response whether it arises from mind, heart, body or a mix of all of the above. We are on the hunt for the automatic, habitual, and urgent. Ways of acting which seem absolutely necessary inside but lead to burnt bridges on the out. Then we ask why that response might be necessary and try to piece together the story from memories, feelings, dreams and body sensations. Is the first thing you are aware of a shouting match half of which you can’t hear? Might take a while to sort that out.
In the meanwhile, we are building a capacity to hold the first response close and quiet as if it were vital and private and meaningful. Might be a message in a bottle from a younger part of you. Even if it’s loud and little bit nasty. Especially if it’s loud and nasty. When the first response swamps your ability to think or even wait, it’s time to seek help. We look for like and opposite. Times you were loud and nasty with your current family or friends, times you blew at your siblings or teammates in middle school, times you ate your words with your parents even though it wasn’t fair.
If this sounds like a process that might bear fruit for you, text me at 212-929-9897. If we speak and decide we won’t work together, I don’t charge.
